If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be chasing after people who don’t love you either…"
Avoid the friendship of those who constantly inquire and discuss the flaws of others.
Just let go. Let go of how you thought your life should be, and embrace the life that is trying to work its way into your consciousness.
Highly sensitive people are often afraid to speak up, until life pushes them to do so. Once you have a major success with assertiveness, you learn that it’s a much healthier path than being a doormat to the insensitive folks. You gain respect for yourself, have more time for your priorities, and develop authentic and healthier relationships.
Enlightenment can be measured by how compassionately and wisely you interact with others—with all others, not just those who support you in the way that you want. How you interact with those who do not support you shows how enlightened you really are.
If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there’s an arrow in your heart…
If you love yourself, you love others. If you hate yourself, you hate others. Because in relationship with others the other is nothing but a mirror.
We like to be out in nature so much because it has no opinion about us.
The moment of awakening may be marked by an outbursts of laughter, but this is not the laughter of someone who has won the lottery or some kind of victory. It is the laughter of one who, after searching for something for a long time, suddenly finds it in the pocket of his coat.
Thich Nhat Hanh,
Zen Keys: A Guide to Zen Practice
I asked the Zebra,
are you black with white stripes?
Or white with black stripes?
And the zebra asked me,
Are you good with bad habits?
Or are you bad with good habits?
Are you noisy with quiet times?
Or are you quiet with noisy times?
Are you happy with some sad days?
Or are you sad with some happy days?
Are you neat with some sloppy ways?
Or are you sloppy with some neat ways?
And on and on and on and on and on and on he went.
I’ll never ask a zebra about stripes…again.
It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.
“The wave said to the sea:
“Could I be like you?”
The sea replied:
“It’s easy… just settle down.””
"The most important thing in no longer caring what anyone thinks is understanding that they don’t know what they really think if they’re not in tune with who they really are."
“Recently, one friend asked me, “How can I force myself to smile when I am filled with sorrow? It isn’t natural.” I told her she must be able to smile to her sorrow, because we are more than our sorrow. A human being is like a television set with millions of channels. If we turn the Buddha on, we are the Buddha. If we turn sorrow on then we are sorrow. If we turn a smile on, we really are the smile. We can not let just one channel dominate us. We have the seed of everything in us, and we have to seize the situation in our hand, to recover our own sovereignty.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
Don’t let yourself be controlled by these three things:
Your past, people and money.
Your past, people and money.
When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.